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“A secure romantic relationship is as smooth as a calm body of water” If lasting love had specific ingredients, what would need to be mixed together? What would make it delicious year after year? Here are nine special ingredients, or secrets of happy, healthy, and emotionally committed relationships: 1. 100% emotionally invested Caryl Rusbult is a social psychologist who studied commitment in marriages over a 30-year period. This is not a “one foot in, one foot out” type of investment. This is an all-in investment, and it is required by both partners. 2. Responsiveness Dr. Gottman’s research highlights that successful couples turn towards each other’s bids for connection 86% of the time. Couples who separate only do so 33% of the time. In order to last, tune into what your partner is saying or doing. Additional research highlighted that it wasn’t how often a couple fought, but how little affection and emotional responsiveness they offered one another that caused a relationship to de

Experiencing sexual fade-out doesn’t mean that your marriage is doomed There once was a time that you and your partner chased each other around the house – passionate, loved-up and full of energy! Somewhere along the line though, things changed, and those super-sexy date nights and the fun that followed, became few and far between… … which is completely normal – according to research. Researchers say that, within two to four years, the chemical connection (and that loving, zesty feeling) between couples begins to wear off – and so does the extra-hot, extra-often sex. Experiencing sexual fade-out doesn’t mean that your marriage is doomed, though. In fact, it’s 100% possible to re-energise your relationship – and add new sparks! World-famous relationship guru, psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author, Esther Perel, tells us how: 1. Stay playful The goal isn’t just about getting our partner to want to sleep with you – it’s to remind you both what it’s like to have fun with

Destructive behaviours can tear a marriage apart – but it doesn’t have to be that way for yours Jokingly criticising your partner, being sarcastic or even something as ‘innocent’ as eyeball-rolling may not be as harmless as you thought. Jo’burg-based couples counsellor and relationship therapist Michael Kallenbach explains how to stop these behaviours from driving you and your spouse apart.   1. Lack of communication In all his years of practice, Michael has found that many couples don’t know how to communicate effectively, which can seriously undermine their relationship. “It’s important to tell your spouse what you’re thinking and how you’re feeling. It’s equally crucial to do it at an appropriate time,” says Michael. Instead of bringing an issue up during the morning rush, rather wait till the end of the day, when the children are asleep or doing their homework and you’ve both settled down. Then have an honest chat, without assigning blame: instead, explain how whatever happened

Nomzamo Mbatha recently joined the “short hair, don’t care” squad and she looks amazing. She makes a rebellious pixie cut look royal and fabulous. Nomzamo is setting the beauty bar high with her gorgeous, fresh look. A new haircut can be a risky thing – you might end up looking weird or silly, but Nomzamo Mbatha’s new haircut is on fire. The beautiful actress chose a cute pixie cut for the summer holidays and it suits her incredibly well. We’re sure this is one celeb who can pull of any look, but this one is really amazing. Many things stand out about Nomzamo – from her effervescent personality, to her humanitarian work and her winning red carpet style – it would take more than one article to pen her journey of success, so how about we just get into her style for now? She permanently gets heads turning and we can prove that. TV actress, businesswoman and goodwill ambassador. Beauty and brains – she’s got it all. Her effortless style and eye for fashion constantly prove that s

Manaka Ranaka is always up for busting out a dance move or two and after a recent video we know where she got it - The popular actress was dancing with her parents and it was a cute moment to witness - The video was so adorable that her fans couldn't help but feel Dezemba vibes and gush a little bit Manaka and Dineo Ranaka are two very bubbly women who love to have fun and their parents are where they inherited that trait. Everyone who keeps up with the family through their reality TV show knows the older Ranakas are very chill people. When Manaka took a moment to bust a dance move with her parents, it really impressed and touched her fans. While some fans were gushing about how sweet the moment was, Briefly.co.za gathered that others were feeling the December vibes in full force upon seeing their happiness. Check out the cute video: Here's what a handful of fans had to say: virgy1865 "I love this video so so cute" elijah.emaan "This is so sweet" p

What a cute and couple goals these two love birds Shona and Connie Ferguson make. They are one of the favourite celebrity couples a lot of people admire and they have really proved to have each other’s back. Let it be said that, ‘love conquers all’. Following their social platforms, both Connie and Shona have for many times showed how much love they have for each. From one of the recent posts of Mrs. Ferguson, she said, ‘“I see my ❤️” he said when he took the picture?😇❤️‘. This was after her picture she was posted, acknowledging a great photograph Shona had shot her. Celebrating their lovely 18th Wedding Anniversary, she shared on her Instagram, ‘“We are different players in the game of life. But together we make a team that hit a home run with all the balls that life throws at us!” Laiti yaka, Modimo o re ratile! His Grace never ceases to amaze me! Happy 18th Wedding Anniversary my LOVE. We make the baddest team in all we do! I love you!❤️💍❣️‘. We can not help but just wish

One of Mzansi’s fave celeb couples, Kwesta and his wifey, Yolanda recently celebrated being together for nine years. The lovebirds who celebrated their lavish white wedding in March this year are always serving #couplegoals. And, on their nine-year anniversary earlier this week, they both penned heartfelt posts to each other. “Last night we spoke a lot about the phases & changes in our relationship because of time & growth. The one constant in anything we may go through is that I’ve never & will never stop loving you. You are my better half. “Becoming your wife was just the cherry on top of this beautiful love story God is writing for us. I’ll love you forever bestie. Let’s have an amazing day.” The award-winning muso also paid tribute to the queen of his heart on Instagram.

Worms found in Man's Brain after he ate undercooked meat Worms found in Man’s Brain after he ate undercooked meat. It might seem like nothing but eating undercooked meat from infected animals is the main cause of tapeworm infection in people. Watch the video below of a man who ate undercooked meat and the result is terrible. Below are more dangers of eating undercooked meat. Here’s why eating raw meat is risky There’s a chance that bacteria like salmonella or E. coli are lurking in your package of sirloin or chicken. Although food production companies have processes to keep their facilities clean, bacteria can be transferred into your future dinner at any point in the production process. “You don’t know how the meat was handled,” says Nelken. “There are a lot of questions.” Many people incorrectly believe that chicken is the only meat that’s unsafe raw, says Nelken. In reality, poultry may be more likely to contain salmonella, but pork and beef pose a greater ris

Choreographer, radio and TV host Bontle Modiselle shares what took place in her life before conceiving her newborn baby girl, her fears and difficulties she has come across. In a nutshell, she has just spoken on what is experienced in a pregnant woman or a new mom, that it should not break you, but make you. With just a few days after sharing beautiful pictures of her new baby, Bontle has taken once again to her social media and shared her journey to having the new baby girl. Taking to Instagram, she said; ‘Brace yourself. || I know my pregnancy journey looked easy. My approach was deliberate. Intentional! I made certain to dance my way through it. To have someone inspired to see and feel pregnancy differently was a goal. However, my difficulties never made it to the socials. Some day, I’ll fill you in on the insecurities, the psychological, emotional, physical and spiritual hurdles I went through following the two miscarriages I had before the successful birth of my baby Afrika. I’

PEACEFUL Kgomo is living proof that HIV isn’t a death sentence. The 24-year-old from Siyabuswa in KwaNdebele, Mpumalanga, told Daily Sun she tested positive at 19. At first it was difficult to accept, but she managed to achieve more as a person living with HIV than she otherwise would have. Peaceful said she’d helped thousands of people across Mzansi and neighbouring countries. Peaceful said she had hosted an annual dialogue to get people to talk about their problems and get help to overcome them. I took control of my life when I started living out the purpose God had intended me to live for,” she said. She also started the Peaceful Kgomo Foundation to help people struggling to come to terms with their status or that of a loved one. “There are far more deadlier things than HIV, and living with it doesn’t mean your life has come to an end. It has actually just started,” she said. She said her own life was proof to others anything was possible. “I’m in a relationship with a man wh

The SABC has given local soap Isidingo the boot, after 21 years on-air. Rumours started swirling after Sunday World first reported that the show had been axed. In July Isidingo celebrated its 21st birthday with special episodes marking the soapies milestone anniversary. On Friday the SABC confirmed reports saying the final episode will air on Thursday 12 March 2020. “The decision to decommission Isidingo was informed by a number of factors which includes poor audience ratings during the time slot, decline in revenue and poor return on investment. “The organisation was faced with no option but to review the performance of all programmes on the channel that are not performing and to ensure that the channel’s content is competitive and commercially viable.” said Mr David Makubyane, SABC Acting Group Executive: Television. Originally produced by Endemol Shine Africa, Isidingo was once labelled “cutting-edge” for its groundbreaking storylines – including HIV-positive and gay characters

Moonchild Sanelly thinks she cheated death after she was hospitalised with debilitating symptoms of malaria. She contracted the life-threatening disease in Malawi where she had gone to perform at Lake of Stars international festival last month. Despite her near-death experience during her four-day hospitalisation, Moonchild still sees the funny side out of the whole ordeal. I did see Jesus and his eyes are squint,” she joked, albeit with a nervous giggle. Before she was hospitalised, the 32-year-old born Sanelisiwe Twisha had travelled to Los Angeles and Austria unaware she had contracted malaria. “It was scary. I remember telling myself there is no way this is going to come out and [have people] say, ‘rest in peace Moonchild’,” she recalled. “I was in and out of consciousness. I was so weak and we initially thought it was just jet lag. So, I was travelling and didn’t know that I had malaria in my system. Apparently when they called the ambulance I was so delirious that I pushed my f

Police are investigating the murder of a Mpumalanga woman who was shot and killed, and the attempted murder of her brother who was thrown out of a moving taxi near Witbank. On Friday, Brigadier Leonard Hlathi told News24 the siblings had taken a taxi from Johannesburg and made it to Witbank. According to reports, they had both spent the day at job interviews in Gauteng. “[While in Witbank] They then boarded a taxi with the view of going back home to Carolina [Mpumalanga]. There were a few men in the taxi with them. Instead of going to Carolina, the taxi rerouted. According to the brother, some of the men then produced firearms. The brother was then thrown out of the moving taxi,” Hlathi said. SowetanLive reported Kwanele Fezile and Ngceboyenkosi Minende Zuma, both 22, took the taxi home late on Monday after they went for job interviews in Johannesburg. The news website added the siblings’ brother, Sanele Zuma, said Kwanele was raped before being shot in the head. However, the police

Oops! Looks like Miss South Africa Zozibini Tunzi had a bit of a rocky start at the Miss Universe pageant. The beauty queen said her farewells on Tuesday and jetted off to Atlanta for the competition. In a video shared on the Miss Universe Twitter page on Thursday, Zozibini and her team are seen scrambling to get an outfit ready after a minor wardrobe malfunction. From the little information available in the clip, we hear talks of beads having fallen off the outfit before Zozi explains to someone that “it got caught on something”. Thursday marked day one of Miss Universe registration and fittings. Fans in the comments were quick to comfort the 26-year-old though, with many some affirming that she is still a favourite in the competition. 🚨Wardrobe malfunction 🚨 #MissUniverse #MissUniverse2019 pic.twitter.com/YdGNJFelGf — Miss Universe (@MissUniverse) November 28, 2019

She may drop bars about pulling up in a four-door Audi, but rapper Nadia Nakai is no longer cruising around in that ride. Instead, sis has “upgraded” to a Mercedes-Benz C220 convertible and a V-Class minivan. “Back then, I had an Audi and an H1. Now I have upgraded to Mercedes-Benz C220 convertible and a Mercedes-Benz V-Class,” she told DJ Sabby on Ignition TV’s Celeb Rides. It is a long way from her days driving a red Fiat Palio. “My door didn’t lock from the inside. I couldn’t open my window. My clutch was a situation. That car literally got me through varsity.” Nadia took Sabby for a ride in her van and opened up about her car journey. Celeb Rides airs every Saturday evening on Ignition TV (DStv channel 189) at 8PM. Fans got a hint of Nadia’s car collection two years ago when she took to Instagram to show off her Audi, which she eventually swapped out for a Mercedes. Since then, her cars have featured in several Instagram posts.

He and his wife made a very brief appearance in the Pretoria Commercial Crimes Court on Friday morning to receive notice of trial. The fraud case against Enlightened Christian Gathering Church leader Prophet Shepherd Bushiri and his wife Mary has been transferred to the Gauteng High Court in Pretoria for trial. Bushiri and his wife made a very brief appearance in the Pretoria Commercial Crimes Court on Friday morning to receive notice of trial. Bushiri, who is also known as “Major 1”, was welcomed by his many supporters who blocked off the road ahead of his appearance. The couple face charges of fraud, money laundering and the contravention of the Prevention of Organised Crime Act for offences they allegedly committed from 2015. One of the charges relates to exchange control regulations and involves the foreign currency of $1,147,200 (around R15 million at the time), News24 reported. Bushiri recently made headlines after Botswana lifted his visa restrictions. This followed by the

It looks as if Prince Kaybee wants to leave the beef he has had with rapper Cassper Nyovest in the past and is not even here for comparisons between the two. The muso, who lit up Twitter earlier this year with his shade aimed at Cassper, is having a hell of a year. After dominating the charts and streaming services, the muso took to social media to flex a little about his accomplishments. An impressed, or spicy, fan then suggested he was better than his rival. “Well deserved. Who’s the real Mufasa vele?” the follower asked, using Cassper’s nickname. Prince Kaybee was not about that life, and made it clear he is on his own level and comparisons were not welcome on his TL. “Don’t compare please, its almost 2020 so change your mindset.” Kaybee’s response came just days after he told another fan he would not attend Cassper’s Fill Up Royal Bafokeng Stadium gig because his guns were “too big”. The pair lit up social media in June when a competition over who had the biggest bi

He is known for his signature move of kicking high into the sky – but this time, some people are saying he’s kicked up too much dust for their liking! Dr. Malinga’s latest video sees him kicking it with the dead on a song featuring DJ Rtex & Beat Movement. Dr. Malinga’s new song Ngiyolala Ngifile, meaning “over my dead body”, was shot at the Kanana Cemetery in Hammanskraal, Tshwane. Graves and tombstones are seen in the background while they dance and sing. Dr. Malinga said the video just complements his song and nothing more. “He must cancel this video. That’s so disrespectful to our African culture.” “People criticize everything. Some people who’re buried there are lonely and neglected so my visit there was important,” he said. He said when funeral parlours and businesses go there and shoot adverts, no one says anything. “During some funerals music is played. People mustn’t fear death because of my video,” he said. On Twitter, King George wrote: “No no, no! Malin

A lot has happened this year when it comes to relationships. We saw celebs such as Masechaba Ndlovu and Ayanda Thabethe finding love. For some, like Kelly Khumalo and Chad Da Don, however, engagements were broken off. For these celebs, who are struck by cupid’s arrow, love definitely found them and they are ready to cement their love in the form of marriage. Dawn Thandeka King After divorcing from her husband of 15 years, Dawn found love again 2 years later. The happy couple has been spotted together on numerous occasions. During Baby Cele’s umembeso, Dawn and her colleague bae were wearing matching outfits and a ring on Dawn’s finger was not something to easily ignore. The couple has not announced anything yet as they said at the time, their families were not properly introduced. Amo Chidi This year has seen Rhythm City’s Amo Chidi being blessed with her first child, and she also got engaged. She announced her engagement on Instagram and coupled the wonderful news with a bible verse

SA Actresses who vanished from our Screens! South African entertainment industry is growing and opening up, meaning there are more artists in the space than ever before. As much as we’d love to believe there’s space for everyone, it’s not always the case. More artists fight for same roles and TV gigs. This is one of the many reasons why we no longer see some of our faves on screen anymore. Some leave voluntarily to pursue other passions and are living their best lives away from showbiz. Nompilo Gwala   Nompilo of the Inkaba fame hasn’t had another big show since the telenovela ended a couple of years ago. Mahlatse Letoka After being written off Generations: The Legacy, Mahlatse went back to school and is currently studying Accounting Science at Wits University. Pearl Maimela   It’s been well over a year since her Pearl‘s last appearance on Skeem Saam. The beauty got married earlier this year and often shares photos of herself chasing summer around the world. Lebohang Mthunzi

DJ Black Coffee was left fuming this week after his name was used on promotional material for a “Block Party” concert he is not a part of. The DJ was originally used to promote a block party featuring US hip-hop star Rick Ross. The Block Party event will see the American star headline shows in Durban and East London. It was headlined in 2015, 2016 and 2017 by Black Coffee. Taking to Twitter, Black Coffee noted that this year’s event was still branded Black Coffee Block Party and distanced himself from the concert. Not sure why this show is still ‘Black Coffee Block Party’. I am not part of this show. This is false advertising,” he wrote. Marketing company Fifth Ace later issued a statement apologising for the “mishap”. It claimed that it had made changes to the name of the event which did not reflect in the marketing Coffee referred to. “We take full responsibility from a marketing perspective for the mishap with the naming of the event Block Party, as changes were made and did

I am so disgustingly single its crazy. I am tired of being single. I just want to say to all the guys who have wanted to ask me out (but were scared) thinking I have a man, come through because I am very single. Dear future bae, I am ready. At times, her mind tells her that she knew her character very well from all stand points, but Motsoaledi Setumo was taken by surprise by how Mmabatho’s dramatic storyline is unfolding in Mzansi Magic’s hit telenovela The Queen. Mmabatho happened to find out only recently, that her beloved mother, whom she believed died in a taxi crash, was in fact murdered by her now late husband Shaka Khoza (played by SK Khoza) by means of a bomb he planted in her car. Angry at him posthumously, for killing her mother and furious that he’s no longer available to answer for his sins, she refuses to mourn Shaka. Neither is she willing to claim a share in his estate, she is totally detached from him, and wants nothing to do with the funeral arrangements, insisting s

Thuli Phongolo and Her Famous Exes! It’s not a secret that actress Thuli Phongolo doesn’t rate her exes. The beauty once tweeted how she was done with them “basics” and wanted a Travis Scott kind of guy. Thuli Phongolo Whilst she keeps most of her romances private, Thuli has tow famous past relationships that are known to the public. Take a look at the famous men she has dated and now consider basic. Wonder if Thuli will go international when choosing her next famous man. Actor Raphael Griffiths   Thuli dated Raphael early in her career for a couple of years. The two never publicly confirmed their romance but it was well known and often spotted together at events. Black Motion’s Murdar Bongz   The actress went on to date one half of hit DJ duo Black Motion’s Murdah Bongz. Again the two never confirmed their romance but often went on hot baecations abroad and where on their way to become a hot DJ’ng couple before they broke up.

Masasa Mbangeni is flaunting her hot new bae Gwydion Beynon and she doesn’t care what you have to say about it! The former Scandal! actress is one of many ZAlebs who’ve chosen to date across the colour line (why the hell not!) and regularly posts loved-up snaps of herself and her soapie writer boyfriend. Fans are happy to see Masasa in love, but they’ve also dished out some relationship advice: Beware of thirsty fans and don’t post pics of bae! A very frank Masasa reacted to the ‘friendly warning’ on Twitter. She tweeted, “Someone said I should stop posting pics of my guy because some girlie might take him away from me. If it happens it’s life hey. …imagine living in fear of ukugilwa?!” Someone said I should stop posting pics of my guy because some girlie might take him away from me. If it happens it’s life hey. Kusemhlabeni apha. 🤣🤣🤣🤣imagine living in fear of ukugilwa?! Yhu could never be she . — Bhut’ Masasa (@MsMasasa) November 28, 2019 ❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰🥰😍I love yo

Singer Simphiwe Dana opens up about her vocal cord surgery, battling anxiety and depression and using music to heal her pain. My voice was completely gone. But my doctor said the voice is there, I was just scared to use it. When she performed at Mama’ Winnie Madikizela-Mandela’s memorial at Bassline in 2018, singer Simphiwe Dana struggled with her voice: however, for many, she wasn’t singing out of tune, but her voice wasn’t going where she wanted it to. She managed to thrill the gathering, but she was worried: for Simphiwe, when her disobedient voice couldn’t yield to her command, she knew something was terribly wrong and wasted no time getting professional medical advice. As fate may have it, Simphiwe (39) was left shell shocked when doctors diagnosed her with vocal dysphonia, a disorder in which the muscles that generate a person’s voice go into periods of spasm. I thought I was going to lose my voice forever,” she told DRUM magazine. The doctors, told her that vocal dysphonia, is

Chasing your dreams is very important. Ask Boity, who made history by becoming the first SA female rapper to reach platinum status for her single, Wuz Dat. Boity Thulo was honoured along with other chart-toppers in the music scene at Universal Music Group’s Night For The Stars award ceremony on Wednesday night. Despite receiving a lukewarm response on the debut single late last year, Boity sure was right that it was only “the beginning”. The platinum-selling news comes as a victory for the former TV presenter now turned rapper, who has in the past been criticised by haters for her bars and accused of using a ghostwriter. In a short sit-down interview with TshisaLIVE, a shaken yet grateful Boity mentioned that the 3.4 million streams the single got came as a shock to her. I don’t know … I didn’t pray for this. So, I’m not prepared … you know. Boity added that she had no idea her rap career would be so successful so quickly. “There wasn’t a specific moment when I told myself I wante

The Pietermaritzburg High Court on Friday dismissed with costs former president Jacob Zuma’s leave to appeal. Zuma and French arms company Thales were appealing the decision to dismiss their application for a permanent stay of prosecution. Advocate Muzi Sikhakhane argued last Friday that in rejecting Zuma’s bid for a permanent stay of prosecution, three KwaZulu-Natal judges had ignored “the prejudicial conduct of the National Prosecuting Authority” towards him. Judgment was reserved for a decision. This is a developing story.

Prayers are being sent out for fashion blogger and model Thickleeyonce who is recovering in hospital after being involved in a horrific accident. Thickleeyonce shared the news on Twitter on Thursday. In a post she recounted how she had survived the accident and shared graphic pictures of the wreckage. The blogger explained in her post that she had been in intensive care for some days and was grateful that she and her sibling made it out of the car crash alive. “(I have) been in ICU for the past days. This is the most traumatic experience of my life. I cannot thank God enough for giving me a second chance to live. God protected me and my siblings from a very tragic accident, I am filled with gratitude.Thickleeyonce I am still in ICU and recovering. Though it’s not clear what caused the crash, pictures showed that the car she was travelling in had flipped over and was severely damaged by the impact. Since sharing her post, a flood of get-well messages were sent to her, with

Sonia Mbele has explained that she was “possessed by the Holy Spirit” when she loudly chanted “Hallelujah!” at this Sunday’s Crown Gospel Awards – a moment which had the country talking. You knew it would be a meme as you watched it. Sonia Mbele was on stage at the Crown Gospel Awards, ready to present the Best Gospel Jazz award Sipho Makhabane, AKA Big Fish. But all the attention was on Sonia after her hilarious outburst which began with her admitting that she got lost backstage, and ended with not one but two loud, screechy chants of “Hallelujah!”. Mzansi Twitter laughed in unison as many suspected that the actress might have been under the influence of something. Some claimed she had smoked something while others thought she had indulged in a drink or two. Watch the incident and a few reactions below: Wiybo Sonia 😂😂😂😂 #CrownAwards2019 #SoniaMbhele pic.twitter.com/mY5iMI39Y2 — Son of the Soil and 211 others (@ingqanga) November 24, 2019 To her credit, Sonia

Within a month or two of HIV entering the body, 40% to 90% of people experience flu-like symptoms known as acute retroviral syndrome (ARS). But sometimes HIV symptoms don’t appear for years—sometimes even a decade—after infection. “In the early stages of HIV infection, the most common symptoms are none,” says Michael Horberg, MD, director of HIV/AIDS for Kaiser Permanente, in Oakland, Calif. One in five people in the United States with HIV doesn’t know they have it, which is why it’s so important to get tested, especially if you have unprotected sex with more than one partner or use intravenous drugs. Here are some signs that you may be HIV-positive. Fever One of the first signs of ARS can be a mild fever, up to about 102 degrees F. The fever, if it occurs at all, is often accompanied by other usually mild symptoms, such as fatigue, swollen lymph glands, and a sore throat. “At this point, the virus is moving into the bloodstream and starting to replicate in large numbers,” says Carlo