How to know if your partner is cheating on you
So many things are at stake, including your relationship. What if you are wrong? Oh, but what if you are right?
What if you accuse your partner of cheating and it’s not true? What if they deny it? How will things change? Can you ever go back to being normal again?
If you suspect your spouse is cheating on you or even micro cheating on you, you’ve got a lot to think about but before I go into the main point, if you like to see more article on parental and relationship advice please click on the follow button and turn the notification on,like and comment how you feel about this article after going through it, you can also share it to your friends and love ones
But before you approach them, pay attention to some of these unfortunate signs that they might be cheating.
How to tell if your partner is cheating: 10 subtle signs that most people miss
1) They are wearing new or different clothing.
If your t-shirt and jeans partner suddenly starts wearing expensive or drastically different clothes, or if they are just putting on clean clothes after wearing their favorite smelly shirt for weeks at a time, something might be amiss.
If your partner has had the same haircut for a long time but suddenly has a bold new haircut “this could indicate an effort to impress another person.
If they are suddenly dressing up for a night on the town, hanging out with new people and coming home at all hours of the night without explanation, you might be in trouble.
The best way to approach these situations is to ask them about the evening and what they did.
If they’re avoiding answering your questions or if you notice their story is changing as much as their clothes these days, something might be changing for them that leaves you wondering what the heck happened between the two of you.
When partners are cheating, they are more likely to change the way they present themselves to the world because they want to appear desirable to someone else.
2) They are hiding things from you on their phone.
If they seem to panic when you pick up their phone or laptop and are suddenly trying to control what you can and can’t do on their phone, something is wrong.
If you have been in a relationship for any length of time, you’ve had access to emails, texts, contact lists, or more and if they are pulling back from that access, it might be because there are suddenly new names and numbers in those contact lists.
If you notice that your partner is deleting texts and constantly clearing their browsing history, then that may not be a good sign.
Does your partner take their phone with them even to the bathroom?
While we all deserve privacy, if you ask to use their phone and they say no, Psychologist Robert Weiss say that this is a problem because “honestly, what could possibly be there – other than information about your surprise birthday – that they would want to keep secret?”
3) You can’t find them or reach them.
Couples that have been together for a while tend to know each other’s schedule.
If he or she is not where they are supposed to be, or if they are not doing what they tell you they are doing, it might be time to sit down and ask them what is going on.
When people are deceptive about their whereabouts or make excuses for why plans changed, things aren’t good.
If you can’t find them or reach them, there might be a reason for that and it’s because they don’t want you to.
4) There’s no intimacy.
If it’s been three months since you’ve rolled around in the hay, something could be wrong.
Keep in mind that couples grow through dry spells, but if he or she is not even showing interest in you and nothing has really happened to cause the distance between you, cheating might be a reason why this has happened.
They don’t need anything from you because they are having their needs satisfied by someone else.
On the flip side, it could also turn the other way round where they are paying you more attention in bed.
5) They are angry and nervous around you
If your kind partner is suddenly angry and frustrated with you, know that it’s probably not you they are frustrated with.
Instead, they are projecting their own fears and insecurities on you.
It’s not always evident because some people change over time. Not everyone is who they first appeared to be and it does happen from time to time that one partner finds out the other partner is not who they said they were.
But if they have been in your life for a long time and are getting mad at you for things that don’t make sense, it could be a cover-up.
This shows a sign of nervousness.
6) Their schedule is suddenly different.
If they have to take off for a few days for work and no, you can’t go too, something might be wrong.
If you’ve always traveled together and now they are saying you can’t come, cheating might be why.
If he or she is going with a work colleague and have a bunch of work meetings and you are not permitted to go because of “company rules”, there’s no company in the world that would say that.
Who has the right to stop you from tagging along, especially if you are paying your own way? Nobody. It’s fishy.
7) Their friends are being weird.
If you can’t seem to find any evidence of cheating but you are certain something is wrong, confront his or her friends.
If their friends can’t look you in the eye or are being weird about it, something’s wrong. It’s a surefire way to tell if your partner is cheating.
Friends almost always know what is going on, and if you are desperate to get the right information before you confront your partner, friends are where it’s at.
8) They are suddenly paying a lot of attention to you after being distant for a while.
Sometimes couples grow apart. It happens. But if they are suddenly interested in you after not paying a whole lot of attention to you for a while, there might be something amiss.
They may be trying to make up for less-than-ideal acts behind your back.
If you find they are trying really hard when they’re around you, it might be time to have a conversation about where this attention is coming from.
9) They are suddenly moody without explanation or apology.
If they’re hiding something, they might not be hiding it all that well.
Sometimes people are really bad at keeping their secrets hidden and they’ll try to pin a lot of guilt on you and point out all the things you are doing wrong to take the light off of them.
It’s a manipulation tactic that tries to make you look like the bad guy so that you won’t be surprised when you find out that she/he has been cheating on you
However, it’s important to note that they may just be having a bad day, but if you can’t find any reason for their sudden change in emotion then it might be time to start thinking.
10) They are not interested in the things they used to be interested in.
If they’re not interested in going to clubs or going to your friends’ houses or they’re not wanting to go out at all, something might be wrong.
When patterns and habits change, there is usually a good explanation for it. Although, it might not be an explanation you want to hear.
If you are worried that things are going south and that they might not be interested in you anymore either, ask for a candid conversation about where things are headed.
In Conclusion
If your relationship seems like it’s on the rocks, you don’t have to walk around in the dark and go crazy worrying.
There is a better way. Like most things humans do, they leave breadcrumbs and evidence of how they really feel.
If you are feeling that something might go sideways in your relationship sooner rather than later, you need to start paying attention to what your partner is doing.
If you can figure out what’s bothering your partner, you can still repair the damage before it goes too far. And, you never know, you might find that your assumptions were unfounded to begin with.
Whether you are right about the cheating or not, the important thing is that you make the effort to talk to your partner about how things are going and what they are thinking so that you are always on the same page.
Things might not always be perfect, but they can be strong.
